You’re a human, right? Therefore, you have fears! That’s the most normal thing on Earth! Imagine that there are people living their fears instead of their dreams (yeah, fears are that powerful)!
When it comes to my writing goals, my fears are all over the place! My long-term goal is to become financially independent through writing by helping as many people as possible. It’s terrifying when I think about it this way because I have no idea how to get there.
That’s why I’m sharing with you this thought-process that helps me move forward.
A fear is just a thought
As stupid as the above might sound, a fear is really just one of our thoughts. This means that we can control it even though it seems to be more real than the sun.
One of my favorite acronyms is the following:
It’s all in our head, and that’s where it mostly stays (more than 98% of our fears never become real). However, those 98% of our fears still control our lives just as they would be real.
I’m not saying this to make you feel insignificant or anything, but the reality is that nobody really cares about the things we do. People care about us as a whole, an entity, not about a phrase misplaced or a funky word. Actually, people don’t even read every single word.
Just think about your favorite book. How many mistakes do you remember? I’m sure there were missing dots and misspelled words, but do you remember them? And if you do, are those mistakes the ones that influenced your life in any way or the book as a whole?
Yes, you might be a perfectionist and you tend to create the perfect piece every single time, but if some mistakes slip, nobody cares! Just move on and do your thing. Everybody will. Your mistakes won’t make the world a worst place, but the things you do well might!
Ask yourself a few questions
Sometimes our fears are so powerful that they block our thought-process and we cannot even conceive how would life look like beyond that. This is why I find these questions to be very powerful:
- What am I really afraid of?
- What are the worst things that could happen (related to the answer above)?
- How would my life look like if those things really happen (describe one day of your “new” life, the sour version)?
- What are the best things that could happen (related to what you want to do)?
- How would my life look like if those things really happen (again, describe one day of your “new” life, the sweet version)?
- Do I see myself doing it for the rest of my life despite the potential sh*tty outcome?
- What do I really want to achieve with this?
- Is this achievement worth the process and the potential sh*tty outcome?
- What can I do to diminish the chances of those sh*tty things to happen, but still going for what I want?
- If I fail and the worst things happen, would I be able to move on with my life despite it?
(PS: These questions are not mine. I borrowed them from the book Fighting the Inside Dragons)
Split your goals
The bigger the goal, the bigger the fear. That’s how it goes. And maybe that fear is too much to handle. This is why I recommend splitting that big goal into smaller ones, goals that you can achieve weekly and even daily. Day after day after day, the goals achieved pile up and after a while, you’ll realize you’re close to that “unachievable” goal you set in the beginning.
Facing smaller fears daily will make you stronger. Even though you need to keep in mind the end goal, don’t let the fear associated with it keep you down.
How do you handle your writing-related fears?
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